God first

When you wake up in the morning... do you first tell God 'Thank you?'
I will be so honest with you... the first thing I do when I wake up is look at my phone. It's due to the world we are living in now.. everything is heavily technology based so it's so easy to forget about God and focus on the world.

But with being a child of God, it is imperative that we devote our days, our life in the hands of God.
He is our scriptwriter, he is our maker, he is our all in all, he is the one that guides us everyday.
Especially with a being a mommy-- I always pray for my kids and pray that God will always keep them safe and protected.

But what it actually means by 'putting God first' is remembering him in everything that you do-- when you are looking for a job, when you want to make new friends, when you are deciding on a new career, when you want to look for a partner, when you even want to just go out-- put God first. Ask him, 'Is this what I'm meant to be doing today?' and he will most definitely give you the answer. God speaks to us everyday but we just aren't listening. We are too busy focused on making money, and our own passions that we forget about the purpose to why we have been put here.

We are human and we will forget things and make mistakes, but God is a loving God and understands. All we need to do is run back to him. He knows what is best for us, and he knows where he wants to take us-- we just have to involve him in all that we do and he will show himself strong in our lives.

Matthew 6:33
" But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

Humbled life

Being a mother is a blessing in so many different ways--- it's not an easy task, but it's something I always give praise to God because I didn't even know if I was going to be a mother.
To be honest, you don't need to have a child to be called a mother-- but personally, I didn't think I'd have children.. I wanted them but I didn't know when or if it was going to happen.

One thing about being a mother is your children teach you a lot. Children are so innocent and so honest it's unbelievable. Can you imagine this is how God wants us to be like?

Matthew 18:3
"And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven."

Let me not digress from what I want to say-- but if you observe how a child is, you will understand this scripture wholehear
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Anyway, having children, raising them and just being around them teaches you so many life lessons-- it causes you to be patient, to be more observant, and to be more understanding. When children aren't at the stage where they can't talk or are just learning to talk, they use signs to communicate, or they cry and it takes you as the parent to understand what they need.

To be honest, having children humbles you-- because as an adult you have a level of pride in you-- but there's these little things that children do that just put you back in line-- especially when you don't take the time to understand their need and you end up lashing out or shouting and all they wanted was for you to cuddle them.

This life is a continuous journey of life lessons-- pick up that book and make notes!

Time to yourself

It's been a long time I've posted...

Definitely not intentional... sometimes life just gets in the way.. or you lose motivation... so many things get in the way, and if we allow it to... we delay ourselves.

I just got a new laptop.. by the grace of God.. so now I'll be able to post more and do more things writing related.. because tbh I've been very demotivated...

But God willing you will be seeing me more again

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I am a mother of a 1 year old

Glory to God.. my son turned 1 on the 15th of October.

Before you even go there.... I know it's been a very very vehrrryyy long time since I've posted anything on here.
It's not easy being a mother.. I tell you. Now at the slightest movement of my son.. I'm up-- I'm now going to bed a lot earlier than I used to, and the balance of nightly routines and getting up super early in the morning for work has its effects.

Plus.. I haven't really felt the need to write anything; but I've had a lot of experiences to write about which I will do at the right time.

Jeremiah is walking-- new sense of independence-- he really enjoyed his birthday and had a cake all to himself-- I just can't believe he's 1--- where did the time go?

He's no longer a baby anymore.. he is a toddler. Lawd.

One thing I will address is... as a parent you really need to keep an eye on what your child picks up, habits, etc-- I've completely stopped breastfeeding now-- but in that Jeremiah obtained a bad habit-- waking up at 1am and 5am for a bottle of milk-- which he DIDN'T need.
It was the fact when he woke up he would get something, so he would always wake up at those times.

I had to nip it in the bud quick-- so the week before I went back to work, it was 'operation sleep through the night' and in just a week he adjusted. It was tough for the first three days, he cried for almost two hours the first night-- I've been hit and scratched in the face...

But yeah. He now sleeps through the majority of the night-- he tends to winge a bit around 4:30.. but he doesn't wake up and that's where I've gotten.
All I do now is before he goes to bed, I make sure his belly is full.. and it work like a charm.

But yes.. I have a lot more to write about... soon!

7 months, behaviour and going back to work

My boy is currently 7 months and 2 weeks and I have been learning A LOT.

As a mother, you learn every single day about your child and what to do-- I've noticed something that my son does that is also a development milestone-- he knows that when he cries or he does something that will draw my attention, my attention will be on him.
Example-- he has learned how to get up from his car seat to the point where he has tipped out of it (He didn't hurt himself, don't worry) but because a couple of months back, I would always pick him up as soon as he cries, so he got used to that-- and when I caught on, I stopped.

I looked this up on google (Honestly, google becomes your best friend) and this can be called 'manipulative' behaviour; Manipulative according to dictionary.com is 'exercising unscrupulous control or influence over a person or situation.'

Babies are learning new things, so without even knowing it, they are doing this. We take for granted how smart they actually are-- children are very perceptive and are very observant.

Now, before you look at what I'm saying in disgust, I'm not saying my son is manipulating me, but he is doing it unknowingly because he's learning the ways of the world. Just how children learn how to throw things and drop them-- they want to know what happens when they do so. So just like this, if your child falls down and cries, and every time he does that, you come running to his rescue-- that is what he will believe and grow with that perception.

The reason why certain children become clingy, or bossy or whatever is based on their childhood and what you allow them to do. But it's our job as parents to be their guardians and to steer them when they are going off track so they don't spoil.

If this happened to you-- your child has been doing this thing where if they cry you pick them up, if they do something for your attention and you give it to them, as they grow in life and they see that doesn't always happen, it will mess them up-- but if you let them know from now, that things will not be like that all the time, things don't happen when you want them-- they will have a healthy perception of life and will not be disappointed when it comes to that.


I'm going back to work in a couple of weeks and I have mixed feelings. I NEED to go back to work financially wise, and it will be good for my boy to get used to not seeing me and to break off the attachment to me-- I ecen sense a hint of separation anxiety already-- because I test him by going out without him for a little while and each time I go out he cries until I get back.

Ideally I would have loved to have gone the whole year on maternity, but reality has kicked in and it would be beneficial for the both of us.


I just can't believe how fast time is flying.

Gummee Glove: Review

When my boy's teeth started cutting through, I had to rush and get some type of teething toy to soothe the pain that he was experiencing. Upon my purchase, I stumbled upon this (pic below)

Called the 'Gummee Glove'; what attracted me to it as the colours and the fact that it has so many parts for the child to chew on, and the fact that they can WEAR it. 

Especially with my boy, he can hold things very well, but he likes to throw things too so at least with this, I can secure it on his hand and he can chew away. The glove makes a crinkly sound like a plastic bag and my boy seems so fascinated with that sound, so even better.

It even comes with its own little travel bag for hygiene purposes-- how much better can you go?

And most of all, my boy likes it. So, can't go wrong! His two teeth are fully out now, but obviously there's more to go!

When you're down...

We all have our down, not so good, don't want to talk to anybody, wanna be quiet, anti social, just want to stay in bed kind of moods.. and that is perfectly ok.

The only difference is to not stay down. Life comes with a lot of disappointments, setbacks, regrets and doubts, but to put a positive spin on it, it means you are preparing to be lifted up.

There are so many reasons to feel down in the life we live in, but you need to believe that everything happens for a reason. I am a living testimony to that statement. There are so many things that I have sat down and contemplated about and wondered what was the point of this happening and meeting this person-- but after everything passed and I could see clearly, I realised that it all helped to where I am now.

We will never see why something is happening right at the start, but with time and a little bit of patience, you will see it actually adds to who you are.

Don't be discouraged if at this time you're feeling down and wondering what is next in life-- it's part of the process towards becoming great. Before you get to the top, you start from the bottom-- when you fall down, you get back up.

The point is, when you are down, the only way is up. The time to get up is all based on you.
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